We have been taught in our society that taking care of ourselves is selfish. We are often taught that everyone else and everything else should be a priority over ourselves.
The problem with this mindset is that we end up depleting our energy and maybe even burning out. This results in health issues, both physically and mentally. This is when we are irritable with others, experience increased conflict in our relationships, and are unable to be present for our loved ones.
The most loving thing we can do for others is to take care of ourselves. This way we have more to give and they get the best of us rather than the leftovers.
Tip #1 - Learn to Say No
It is so important to prioritize your valuable time. What are you committing yourself to? Are there any commitments you have made that can be cut out of your life? Make sure your commitments line up with what you value the most.
For example, if you have agreed to be on a committee through work, church, or an organization that you belong to, but it is time consuming and not something you are passionate about, consider resigning from that committee. Even recreational activities can be too much if they are taking valuable time away from family life or other activities that are more important to you.
Tip #2 - Set Boundaries
How healthy are your relationships? Is there anyone in your life that is causing you tremendous stress? Learning to set healthy boundaries can be one of the most valuable life skills you ever learn. If you are unsure how to set boundaries or need more help with sticking to them, please contact me. This is something I can help with.
"Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." Brene Brown
Tip #3 - Have Fun!
Life isn't meant to be all seriousness. We experience greater satisfaction in life when there is a balance of fun activities in the midst of work and taking care of others. When is the last time you planned a fun activity into your schedule? If it has been awhile, consider booking that into your calendar right away and prioritize a way to make it happen.
Tip #4 - Stay Connected to Others
It's so important to have people we can trust to lean on for support. Make sure that you are reaching out to your support system on a regular basis. Human connection keeps us balanced and healthy both mentally and physically.
Tip #5 - Block off "Me" Time
Make sure your schedule also has time that is just for you. Time for quiet reflection, creative pursuits, or even just resting is essential for emotional balance. Blocking off the time in your schedule makes it more likely for you to make that time a priority. Don't let requests for your time take this away from you.
You and your wellness are as important as everyone else!
Remember: by loving yourself you are able to love others more effectively. If this is an area that is difficult for you, please get in touch with me to discuss this. I can support you in making yourself and your wellness more of a priority in your life.